That lonely moment.
You know it:
it's the moment when you put something out in the world and you listen and hear … crickets.
It could be a blog post that meant a lot to you.
It could be something new you listed on etsy.
It could be a status update on Facebook.
Talking it up to an empty room.
For me, that lonely moment happens when I start to let people know about something I'm doing, something that I care about.
It happens the moment after the email goes out.
It happens regardless of how many people have signed up for my classes in the past.
Of course it's happening a lot this week because I want people to know about 'Why Not Now?' and its free prelude class, 'Meet Your Project.'
Important and - ow!
I feel that loneliness and doubt, and it's time for Monster Chat.
monster: See? No one cares. Why bother?
me: And … what is this about? I get that monsters like you are all about keeping me safe, but keeping me safe from … being ignored? Really?
monster: Safe from being hurt. Disappointed.
me: Oh. Well, I'll admit that it's hard to put stuff out and feel like no one's paying attention. But I would argue that Sometimes stuff that's important for me to do is uncomfortable.
This feeling is a normal part of letting people know, and I'd like to learn to expect this lonely feeling.
Oh, hi, crickets!
As in 'Oh, hi, crickets. Gee, I haven't heard you since the last time I talked up something I was excited about. How ya been?'
- Because people are busy.
- People are distracted by urgent stuff as well as adorable videos of bear cubs playing with wolf pupsOMGCUTE!
- People need to see something multiple times before it registers.
- Different people hang out in different spaces.
Someone might be reading about my thing and thinking, 'oh, yeah, I really want to do that!' and because I lack psychic powers I have no way of knowing.
The wonderful Heidi was teaching a class this week -- Essential Oils: 1-Oh-1.
I love what Heidi does. Her potions are amazing. Her writing is inspiring.
I got emails from Heidi about the class and each time I saw them I thought 'yes! Sign me up!'
And each time I saw her mention it on Facebook or twitter I thought 'yes! I'm so there!'
But Heidi doesn't know this.
All she knows, if she checked, is that I opened her email. There's no way for her to know that I was excited about the class.
Especially because I didn't sign up until the last possible minute.
Crazy shit happened this week involving two different hospital ERs! I was a little distracted.
And even when I signed up, my brain had a hiccup and I got the time wrong, so even though I intended to be there for the live class, I wasn't.
I totally wanted to do it (and I'm looking forward to getting the recording), but how would Heidi know?
So, monster (I'm actually still talking to him), in conclusion, can you see that it's likely that people are seeing and reading my stuff, and even though I have stats, there's really no way to know?
There's no way to get inside people's heads and lives and see what's going on and how enthused or not they are about my thing.
So even though I feel lonely when I hear the crickets, the truth is that they're really not saying anything.
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Time to remind you!
Today is the deadline to sign up for 'Why Not Now?' at the early-bird price and save $100. If you're at all curious, take a look.
If you're not quite sure if it's for you, you can join us for 'Meet Your Project,' a FREE prelude class to 'Why Not Now?' It's Tuesday, and if you sign up, you'll extend your deadline for the early-bird price.
Even if you can't make the class, you can still sign up to get the recording. Sign up for 'Meet Your Project' here.